Summary is a gloss. Avoid it! Guide the other person into the weirdness of the weeds. Be real. Otherwise, what are we doing here? When you let yourself be a little vulnerable, often the other person will feel like they have permission to as well. You’ll enter a psychological room you might not have been in before together, participating in the magic of shared experience — something that happened to them happened to you, too. If you get there, you’ll marvel at it, at how much we keep locked away that others feel, too. Or it’ll go the other way, and you’ll marvel at how vastly different your paths end up being. Of course, don’t let just anyone into that room. Stand guard but lean toward taking chances. That’s the way into the wilderness.